For new parents of friends, but how to make children grow up without pain, happy, then the most care about is how to get along with them, and how to help them show their potential, let them "at the starting line up".The childIs not general assembly speech, temporarily don't understand to express themselves, to well understand they really is not an easy thing.Many parents have recently hit show "where dad" tian in the sigh, on the one hand, want to be a "benevolent father", on the one hand, and it is hard to understand young children's world.

Of course, a lot of people will be using western astrology,Chinese bucket numberOr eight words such as tools to assist in mind, however these tools need a lot of time to study, to learn them well, children are big.Far water can't save nearly always fire, is there some of quick and convenient way can bring us a message?Answers are yes, one of them is this article to introduce the skills - restricting Numbers (Conditioning Number).

Restricting Numbers is Greek school life learning (Numerology, and as the life spirit) of one of the skills.Legend has it that the inventor of the genre is the Greek scholar Pythagoras (570-495 BC), the content is to put the date of birth, and names integration analysis.Most people are familiar with is the main numeral (Life Path), the average person says the number of people, why is the person's main representative fate-rule.This article are restricted to say digital is a part of the master of numeral, but the content is more worthy of our reflection.

We first look at how restricting Numbers are calculated.The data only need case on Numbers and born born digital, so we just need to know the children's birthday, can find their own Numbers.The calculation method is as follows, the birthday on Numbers and Numbers are all into single digits, and the sum, if the result is more than 10, namely the and the total number of digits into single digits, together again.

To the birthday on September 19 example: 9 + 1 + 9 = 19;1 + 9 = 10;1 + 0 = 1

So the person's number is 1.

Then we can analyze the restricted Numbers.We thought he was a child, in the face of everything is fresh, uncertain, and don't understand other people's calls (mainly to talk, do not rule out really just cry, want to do is basically how to blend in the "social" as far as possible, and what to do to survive and love.We will be in their own small eyes and a small head and continued to "see", hope to get the answer.Philosopher Karl popper reminds us, however, when we watch a thing, we must have a point of view and the Angle (called the former title) in the original, we only use our point of view to see the world, and these different point of view, is that influence factors of our world view.And this our inherent Angle of view, is by restricting the number shows.His world view for us to set up has a pivotal role, just like the rise in our astrological sign, they represent the personal view of the world, is also tell us what kind of mechanism to deal with the relationship between themselves and the world, and we want to achieve something in this world, though most want to achieve something is not equal to us how to succeed, to guide us, however, it can be used in the most effective ways, children can also win on the starting line.

Below is the restriction brought by the digital characteristics and Suggestions:

The number 1.

This number represents the performance, often appear in the eldest son, or among the eldest child in the family.But must they all grow in everyone's expectations, natural feel attention by all of us is inevitable, so when I grow up will be very hard to carry out things, constantly getting new pattern, in order to attract people's attention.Carried out is not the problem, however, we must constantly give fresh cases, we can not maintain high productivity, the final will be a lot of things by halves, or master, of the situation.This problem at the core of the reason is that child was too much about other people's expectations, but it's hard to real idea expressed in the heart, over time, they will feel bad, no deserved value, so only by constantly, constantly, to meet the side people look forward to, to paralysis is a person worthy of love.Parents' solution is to encourage children to express themselves well, and create a free space for their development, not on the way to join too many opinions.The other is not to interfere in their life, respect everyone's personal space, cultivate children to be independent.Such children will show a positive traits, such as ingenious, leadership and resolve.

2.

That's representative of the emotion and inner activities, particularly prone to rank among children in the home, or the family of small children, but in the midst is appeared, the environment is about issues such as responsibility, achievement, independent of all had been handled by other achievement in the family, so the rest of the task is to maintain the harmony of the family.In their small heart there is a very early instruction, the pain of others is equal to your own pain, so have not happy in other family members or other intense emotions, it is easy to be affected.

In the concepts of family therapy, they are the family emotional exports, so they can easily be instead of the whole family to their emotions, so they are the most likely to have a lot of the social behavior of people, is also the most care about a lot of psychological doctors.

As parents can never make them depressed mood, in Chinese society, we all think it is wrong to cry laugh, because feel no suave, but we all need a proper channel to vent their emotions, to healthy growth.After church they thoroughly express emotions, they naturally can show the advantage of their positive: understanding of others, feeling the need of others, can build a good interpersonal relationship.

3.

This number really need happiness, are more likely to appear in the family, or neighborhood, often have different people in and out of home;However inevitable is the instability of family environment have a lot of, the above said is one of the possibilities, the possibility of more negative have some special needs in the home is to care for others, such as mental illness, or special irascible man.They naturally want to these troubles or not can be expected in a distance, so will respond to all the trouble.

They want to push the trouble mechanism has two aspects, the first is always smiling, make others happy, problem solving, natural eliminates the problems;The second is the assimilation with the environment, rejected the happiness, the last forgotten the taste of happiness.

To guide them well, the most important is to cultivate their creativity and, at the same time also can make children more adapt to the surrounding environment, but also can make them know happiness is a person, rather than given by others.In addition, can also create or art to give a breathing space between themselves and the reality.

4.

This number represents the stability, will appear in the average family, so difficult to predict;However, if the home has "tiger mother" or "monster parents", appears more likely.Stable explain it again, he not steady, as we always think the meaning of emotional stability and other related aspects of "virtue", imagine that a naive and lively child why sitting in a chair motionless?The main reason is that many people are they show the stability of the virtues, make children appear a lot of pressure, finally became motionless.

Four other associated with the body, this will make children have incorrect cognition on his body, such as felt that he didn't run fast enough, long enough, or is too high, the body does not meet, it is easy to make children too nervous, so they don't have the vitality.

Let them become lively method, first is to take them around to eliminate the pressure of excess, will they become longfeng, don't be too hard as long as they grow up happily.The rest of the solution is not complex, international human rights conventions, mentioned we must let the child game has a duration of one hour a day, just need to stick him.Of course!The game does not mean that the original weibo and tablet, but outdoor activities or sports.In the end, they will be able to show the stability of all virtues.

5.

Instability and change is the core of this number, when the family has a lot of changes, or the smallest children usually have this number.Their mechanism and the number 3 is a bit like (plus a little bit number 1), are faced with change, but they are different solution.They know that the world is constantly changing, how can we stay do not leave, so they will be pre-emptive, enemy, let me move, can make family initiative, as long as they are constantly changing, you can make other people love them and care about them, and pay attention to them, so can from alone with no one to take care of, they can be safely survive.

We see this appearance in the domestic many, many prince princess syndrome is a typical 5 performance, it must be headache for us.Another is negative performance is similar to a hyperactive.To make them appear to be good, the characteristics of the five is to teach them learn to specification, but also make them know, escape and can solve the problem, they can be stabilized, naturally also need not always change yourself against the environment.In the end, they can show the number of benefits, can improvise, deal with the crisis, as well as full of vitality and energy.

6.

6 is the core of love, but love was distorted in the middle of the restricting Numbers.This number is more appeared in the middle and intellectual family.Their mechanism is always keep smiling and upbringing, at least to be clever, they are laughing in sugar, the more they meet the parents of the projection, the parents can complete idea of the perfect image, the more they can get love.The more love, will appear more smile on their face.

In the eyes of some people may not feel sugar will appear in the poison.However this mechanism leads to two main results: first, because they are a lot of motivation by external, which they did not have the independent ability.As in the university, a lot of people trying to get into university, but kept playing games in the university, is the problem of the mechanism;Another negative performance, is that they used to be perfect, so in order to become perfect and persistent critics, increase the pressure.

To solve this problem, the most important is to let them know, the most need to love a person is their own, but also to convey, they are always be loved, is not be ignored, in this way, you can show the advantages of digital, can care about others, make each other feel love, there are a lot of diplomacy and cooperation spirit.

7.

Knowledge is the content of 7, but why would a child sit down and the pursuit of knowledge, must have been quite a touching story behind, 7 in the beginning there is a very big curiosity, really want to experience everything in the world, however, many parents, especially the Chinese society, are very don't like children ask east asked west, the curiosity of children, to their relationship with their parents began to slowly alienation, opting for indirect way to understand the world, is the book and knowledge, they replaced the experience and experience.This and the circulating on the Internet have similar picture: you cut off my wings, but blame I won't fly.

The negative performance of the system is the alienation of interpersonal relations, they find it difficult to establish strong relationships, it is difficult to directly show themselves;In addition, it is difficult to have in-depth opinions, stay on the intellectual level is also one of their difficulties.

To the restriction of their digital positive development, to cultivate the spirit of their knowledge, but also need to guide them, broaden their horizons, they naturally can find a lot of new ideas, the economy can also make life have a more profound.

8.

If we say that the number eight is successful, a lot of people will think whether we need to leave the children have been in restriction of good.On the results, it is hard to deny that we successfully is very important for a person.But want to remind everybody, the initiative to find the treasure of life and was forced to try to run to save face and tireless is two levels.Because of the restriction of the negative performance just don't want to fail successfully, take cold treatment for everything, don't get to, not to choose, not to do it.Not to do it, won't fail, while at the same time also won't succeed.

Solution is to teach children to set up the correct values, the concept of a person's value is not entirely determined by their achievements, more is determined by a personal life enrichment degree.As long as we make your life meaningful, let your life full of luster, this is the real success in life.Also should education children learn to balance, don't be too extreme, children can naturally found in life belongs only to their achievement.

9.

Family children will have a lot of time the number of constraints, the meaning of the number 9 is no boundaries, and the communion of the world.These children in childhood may have a lot of people involved, no private space, or too closely linked, with his family to a child is very difficult to set up good self limit, often feel others thing to do is to do your own thing, to my mind only others, not yourself.

All for one, one for all, it is everybody yearned for virtue, but I am the person, we all really for me, this is a mystery.When people aren't return children, children will become disappointed, slowly, the child will be frozen up one's mind, to others it is difficult to close to the children.(The zodiac /astro/)

To study the character of 9 diligent, humanitarian and inspirational force, we should be more concerned about their children, they don't feel lonely;At the same time to provide children with a can at any time to enter the private space, make the child have a soul rest place.Positive results will occur, we even can not cover all.