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Be wronged to rub

More than a decade ago, I'm working in a commercial unit.There is a weekend, I am on duty in the office, to a man and a woman complainers.Through the understanding, to know the cause of the complaint: the lady at the mall shopping, save suspect she steal things, took her to the maintenance room.She never admit that police station has come, finally confirmed she did not steal.The lady came home feeling really cowardly, accompanied by her husband to the office to file a complaint.

The lady from appearance, actually is our traditional sense of "rub".

"Rub more adverse ACTS", it is the natural to rub a face is a kind of subjective and arbitrary evaluation.That is the case?To rub or said, is how to avoid their career development seems to be inevitable in rough truth?

Born unlucky to rub

What is a rub?"Modern Chinese dictionary", explains: describe furtive.This is from a person's interpretation of expression.People more, however, from the appearance in terms of business.A thief eyebrow long refers to a pair of small, thin, yellow, short eyebrows;Rat eyes is get itThe mouseEyes of metaphor, namely small and prominent eyes, eyes, also called stealth.To rub together, is that of meanness long a pair of small eyes of concentrated, and eye flow, is often fall into useful people, eyes stealth.

People to the person to rub all of these Suggestions, and it is from an aesthetic perspective.In a period when I was in the analysis of the face become said that when a quick, even too agile, eye flow, vacillation, face and body and excel at the same time, is everyone's favorite will become.If, in turn, responsive, circulation, vacillation, but faces very meanness, then people will like this kind of person is defined as eyebrow rat.So people will give poured a lot of dirty water of this type of man.

Why is this so?Faces of meanness, because such people uncomfortable, would be disgusting from aesthetic, combined with quick, even more than general agile agility, so people often when dealing with such people get along, don't feel sureness, because this one quick, think more, you also many, small eyeball a turn is an idea, people feel this is bad to deal with, often cheated of exchanges, at least take advantage of less than.Then how to do?So due to the limitation of human knowledge, past the smart person of this kind of face meanness, the familiar metaphor of the mice, everyone has an obvious negative.And people to rub to such a person, is thousands of years.

Actually, this is for such a great disrespect to the faces of the people.To rub the meanness of phase was born, is parents give, is can't change (except plastic), have nothing to do with a person's quality, the quality of the people is formed by the day after tomorrow.Have great achievements in history, there are faces meanness, such as cao cao.

The growth of the rub is

A life is to rub a pair of faces, this is can't change, but such people in the process of growth, its inner world is constantly under the influence of the external environment.

To rub in the process of growth, is often not popular, exclusion and even slander, and often subject to people's psychological hint.So psychological not strong will become more and more suspicious and alert, in the process of interaction with people, vision is more bold, eyes flow faster, namely the moment in a state of alert.Seriously, this kind of person will produce psychological shadow, even may bring harm to others behavior.If have such things happen, people will be more firm views about this kind of person: "look at his eyebrow rat like, do what's good?"So, people need to protect the oneself, deal with this kind of people are keep vigilance, it only increases the vicious cycle, the whole society is to the heart of this people keep a watchful.Therefore, rub the professional development of those who tend to be affected by the great.

Executives to rub is rare in people

Obviously, this kind of person is often a disadvantage, in the middle of the career development within the organization tend to reuse.

I do search for so many years, contact a lot of senior professional managers, almost no faces meanness, these people are mostly full forehead, cabinet fangyuan, heavy, contour founder, imposing manner, have a good image and temperament, and rub the person of this kind of face, there are very few senior professionals do.Because such people uncomfortable, from the visual perception and responsive, guard force is very strong, when dealing with people who won't hurt, and deal with people is a bit not careful to lose.So in organizational behavior, such people are not easy to get promoted and reuse.In an organization, such people may be in a very important technical post, but it is difficult to be promoted to senior management positions.In the process of communicate with external, especially in the process of the first meeting, people is with resistance to them.So, this kind of person foreign work difficulty is large.

Rub the professional way

We first need to resolve the social psychological activity of people, will find that our sense of rejection of such people is mainly in the process of the first meeting.If everyone in the same unit, organization, work place for a long time, also become accustomed to.Because, people not only have aesthetic fatigue, ugliness and also have tired!Time is long, people used to a person's appearance, and pay more attention to his inner world and character.To rub the character of those who know, will find this person is very easy to get along with, character is very good, so that people will gradually accepted as the surrounding people and organizations, so he could get the opportunity to reuse.

Thus, we can analysis and advice to rub should how to plan your career path.

A, look for a unit dry for a long time

After entering an organization, the best long-term work in the organization.Only within an organization for a long period of development, all of your personal character, personality, ability to understand somewhat, so that it will gradually give you important work -- and, of course, these are important work is the main internal controls, such as: financial, administrative, information, research and development, quality inspection, quality control, audit and other foreign communication is not much work.This kind of people do these work, often result is excellent.Because do financial work, not only need to be careful and meticulous, and agile reaction, thinking quickly, have strong consciousness of error correction, risk awareness, and the risk control ability, make the enterprise less as far as possible out of the financial risk.Similarly, corporate information technology also needs to do the risk consciousness and control ability.This kind of person to do this kind of work after a long time, also can grow to a management position, in the face of their own management, when the radius of the strong sensitivity, easy to do the range of effective control on management.But to grow upwards again, vulnerable to a limit, because to external exchanges, the disadvantages of faces problems immediately.

Second, don't move

Development opportunities, this kind of person is when everybody jump, you don't follow suit.Because you don't jump, everybody move on organization inside the lack of cadres, compared to newcomers have you trust understanding of comparative advantage, it'll be easier because of the shortage of cadres promoted and reuse.

If rub is lucky enough to do senior management positions, but don't move easily, because of your senior management job is hard, is your long-term unremitting efforts in exchange for, is you use professional and personality cultivation, is that you associate with organizational members get along with your boss for a long time for trust.And this kind of trust is only effective in your long-term cultivated organization.And also please remember: this is your boss and organization members get along with you for a long time the result of the ugliness and fatigue.If the job, the interview is very sad, because the judge a person by his appearance is natural law, understandable.What's more, you want to apply for the position is very critical, most bosses will not put a don't know, who don't have any feelings and trust to rub on the position of the heart, unless the boss is superman and saints.

Third, passive job-hopping to jump familiar place

Under the condition of market economy, of course, whether a merger and reorganization or bankruptcy is likely to lead to these key positions, passive job-hopping, especially senior managers have to jump.So, then how to move?Organization at this time, you'd better find a foundation in the relationship to jump, such as: your old classmates, old friends, old comrade-in-arms, villagers in do the boss, or important position in organization, these people know well for you, have trust, so job-hopping is easier.If not, cost is high.

Of course, if I'm working in the past through the bank of China was, well done, made famous in the industry, everyone know you, stand up to a background check, you can also fully flow in the market.If not, so people often post the higher, the harm, if instead of at the grassroots level.

So, on the other hand, such people come to work early, had better choose a relatively has the development prospect of organization, steadfast work, this is called into the line, and with the people and do the right thing with the development of industry and enterprise growth with growth.Precipitation in an enterprise for a long time, grow up in an enterprise, this is the kind of person the best career development path.

Fourth, avoid by all means in anger

Anger job-hopping is office taboo, taboo in this kind of person is a no-no.So advise this kind of person, don't grow within an organization to a certain high, think they made great contributions to the development of the organization with enterprise, with the boss, and boss fell out, left in a fit of pique, the buyers have not find good.This situation is worse.Due to the natural phase of a rub of meanness, you want to go to the unit was to use you must be wary, suspicious, but considering your expertise and experience are ok, hope to do a background check to verify, background investigation to who do research?Background check is mainly to your old boss, boss or human resources survey.Out and you decide to leave, it's hard to say you are good, so trouble for you.

So, don't anger job-hopping, any patience when value is infinite, especially to the person to rub.