Look from the numerology self-destruction of marriageA woman

Yesterday, Beijing news broadcast an interview program, interviewed object is singer MengGe, also is the famous singer li shuangjiang lover.

MengGe, born in 1966 in hubei shashi, four learning to sing by mother at the age of enlightenment, made her debut eight years old.Troupe in 1979 and was admitted to shashi, the troupe in 1992 into the general logistics.In 1995 achieved a major leap in personal art career, become a master graduate student of national vocal music at the China academy of music, and in school during the two consecutive terms for best singer of the favorite of the people first.Mr. Li, born in 1939.On October 26, 1990, Mr. Li and MengGe friendship hotel in Beijing held a grand wedding.Thousands of people to the capital, the literary congratulations on this pair of teachers and students all's well that ends well.

Talking about their relationships between teachers and students, MengGe remains very sentimentally attached: 1989 pairs of jiang and I went to Qingdao, there is a singing contest, we go to when the review.One time, everybody together climb laoshan, everyone else went before, the two of us to climb in the rear.Climb to the top of the hill, he came to a sudden stop, hands reach out, shouted at the blue sky: god is my witness, I'll marry MengGe!He was like that cute, likeThe child.I didn't also seriously, think he in this play.But I always remember this scene, it was the first time he told me that.

Finish see this show, Dr Zheng outside deeply blessed MengGe, recalled recently consulted some female friends of marriage, deeply sorry for them, because it is their own self-destructive marriage.

Remember while in college, Dr Zheng door class called "of western philosophy," speak of the famous ancient Greek philosopher Socrates, his thought for people praise, but his wife is a bitch.Socrates was her every December and beaten.

A lens: Socrates had just entered the door, one day is very puzzling, his wife nagging presence to him, then it is swearing, verbal abuse or.Socrates has been used to all this, so smoke up, and sat on the side when his wife saw him ignore don't pick on their own, more fire emit three zhangs, spirit not dozen 1 come, carry on a basin of water head is a splash, suddenly the whole body wet Socrates.

Neighbor next to see the wonder of ask: "your wife called you just now, why not retaliate?"Takes Socrates said: "I know, after a lightning will have a bowl of the heavy rain."

Dr Zheng, of course, does not know whether Socrates finally divorce, however, for thousands of years later, in the reality of Chinese marriage, many failed marriage is related to the women themselves.

Generally, speaking of the contradiction of marriage, especially about the marriage breaks down, it is considered to be the man's fault: seems women are weak, and man is the culprit.Actually, not any emotional marriage break-up is the man's fault, instead, is the problem that some women.

What's the problem, of course, nursing science is a female and male - based on analysis of problems.

Many women will have a misunderstanding:To get married, the man is my, is my patron is my accessories.Relations since certain, so seems to be strong, therefore, his own personality temper at ordinary times play incisively and vividly.

And of women, they can have confidante, even flirt in the outside, but for his own man, is looking at is very tight, afraid of another woman ran their own men.As a result, in language, action is often to make men in distress situation, even realistic-looking behavior.

The other some women, their behavior is restrained, is transparent, want their men also is so, it is best to live in a "vacuum", otherwise, the depression disease is always nagging and cry at the same time.

Usually family violence, most people would think that is a man bully woman, in fact, in the case of the Dr Zheng consulting, only to find that men and women to beat in the residual.While the woman looks fragile, but in the face of his own men "indifferent", but will fall cruel-hearted beaten, seems to give vent to anger in my heart.Little imagine, the consequence is counterproductive.

Friends should know, some women in order to maintain the marriage or emotion, to use the most horrible, move disturbing: cut his wrists, jump off a building, take medicine, etc.

Dr Zheng solemnly remind friends: the above these behavioral measures taken by the women, ninety-nine percent of them are the results of such: marriage break-up, two feelings.

What makes "fragile" women can have such behavior?Dr Zheng has for years been put this as one of the research topic.

In fact, from the point of life science, is regular, Dr Zheng cite just a little:

1, all women in numerology horoscope for strong, or strong, then the behavior of a foundation.Probability is above 90%.

2, if women in numerology horoscope is very weak, or is weak, so, will be "good", the probability is 80%.

It is important to note that although there is a "people's life in heaven", but actually the destiny of man including emotional marriage also is along with the time flow on the different and change.Said the popular point: in the past feelings very good men and women could change as a result of the passage of time, it also verifies the medical theory of so-called "menopause".Just physical "menopause" to a certain age, whereas emotional "menopause" is may occur daily, monthly, every year.Yesterday a good emotional marriage, therefore, may be today, with a "flash floods" drain and control.

What are the precautions?May friends will ask, Dr Zheng thinks, if men and women born in numerology opposition figure of eight, or be careful;Has been combined with if you want to maintain feelings, only through a physical conditioning of resolve.Just: regulate dissolve is exogenous, and people in numerology is the internal cause, any external cause need through the internal cause.

Not long ago, a woman that a minor celebrity consulting Dr Zheng: my husband important, but I suspect he is outside small three, I want to make to his office, will solve the problem?

Dr Zheng noncommittally, only give her a word: if you want to self-destruct marriage, you will make.Do not believe you try.

A few years ago has a TV show: "chinese-style divorce", it should be said that at present such speak one of the best TV series in men's and women's marriage.Performed with 23 sets, but throughout a theme:

On the issue of family, in the emotional problem is not too truer, kindness, tolerance, confused, ratio what all good.

Show the end, the hostess finally understand the true meaning of marriage men's and women's emotion:

On Thanksgiving party jian-ping song hospital, hsiao-feng Lin, dressed in black suit's face calmly and detachment, unkempt appearance as it has always been her.She looked at the stands, slowly said.

"I heard a parable, and said a girl who is going to get married, asked her mother should be how to grasp the love after marriage, her mother took a handful of sand from the ground, the girl saw the sand in the hand of the mother, satisfactory, no loss, no fall, suddenly the mother with his hands clenched, sand immediately see xie fall from the mother's fingers, waiting for the mother in the open hand, the hand of sand is left.Mother to tell her daughter, love need not deliberately to grasp, the more want to firmly grasp their love, but easy to lose yourself, lose the principle and lose each other should keep tolerance and understanding, love will therefore become had no aesthetic feeling.Everyone wants to have a happy marriage and love, but love is need ability, this ability is, let the person you love love you."